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Episode 17 of the Reluctant Optimist: Honesty is Alignment.
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Episode 16 of The Reluctant Optimist: You sell like you buy.
For a long time, I thought looking for the best deal made me smart, but eventually I realized that same instinct was quietly shaping the way I sold.
Jul 3
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June 2026
"Reluctant Optimist," episode 15: Self-Discipline: The Competition Isn’t Even Playing the Game
Self-discipline changed my life once I realized the competition usually is not even playing the game half the time.
Jun 30
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Reluctant Optimist, episode 14, "Brute Force Versus Inspiration."
For a long time, brute force was the only fuel I really understood: push harder, prove them wrong, outlast everyone, and turn the chip on my shoulder…
Jun 26
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Reluctant Optimist EP 13: Why relationships fail in 2026 Radical Honesty VS False Pretense
In this episode of The Reluctant Optimist, I share why I think relationships often don’t work—because people walk in under false pretenses and try to be…
Jun 25
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The Reluctant Optimist, Episode 12: The Reward for Being Low-Maintenance Is Usually Neglect
Being low-maintenance sounds like a compliment, but sometimes it is just a polite way of saying that you have become easy to overlook.
Jun 25
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Reluctant Optimist EP 11: A Reading: Radical Empathy, Independent Thought, Timeless Rebellion
Episode 11 is a little different: a reading from Walt Whitman’s 1855 preface to Leaves of Grass, followed by a few thoughts on why it still feels so…
Jun 24
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R/O EP 10:People Reward the Mask: Why Relationships Resist Your Growth
Every family, friendship, and social system eventually assigns people roles: the funny one, the strong one, the useful one, the detached one, or the…
Jun 23
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R/0 EP:9 Control Makes You Fragile. Adaptability Makes You Free
We spend a lot of time treating control like strength, when much of the time it is simply fear trying to force reality into a shape we can tolerate.
Jun 23
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R/O EP 8: I'll be happy "when" and other lies we tell ourselves.
For most of my life, happiness was something waiting at the finish line—after the money, the achievement, the right relationship, or whatever goal I had…
Jun 21
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R/O EP 7: Workability vs. Compromise: Stop Bending Until You Break
Compromise weakens you. Workability multiplies you. Here's the difference.
Jun 20
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Reluctant Optimist EP 6: If You Give a Monster a Cookie... Good People Have to Make Good People Win
Episode six is about the uncomfortable truth that people don’t always reward goodness; they often reward volume, chaos, and whoever complains the…
Jun 18
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